The “D” Word

November 1, 2018
by Elizabeth Cusulas
Broken Heart - DivorceEvery 13 seconds someone files for divorce.

Did you know…

  • Over 41% of first marriages end in divorce
  • Over 60% of second marriages end in divorce
  • The divorce rate has recently dropped

The concept of marriage has evolved over time, which directly impacts the divorce rates. The number 1 reason for divorce is lack of communication or the mismanagement of communication. Divorce is not failure. Despite its multi-faceted levels of pain, it is an opportunity for growth and insight


When looking for a divorce attorney beware of the “parrot” – someone telling you only what you want to hear.

Be aware of the difference between issues that are definitely emotional and relevant, however don’t always have ‘court” relevance.

Pre-marital therapy is highly recommended. Therapy at any point (sooner rather than later) costs far less than a divorce. A relationship therapist can teach you about the life cycle of a couple and provide you with the right tools for communication


Never assume. Not when you’re dealing with your future.
– Annette J. Benson, Founder of Annette Benson Law 



Myth: It is OK to deny visitation if the other parent does not pay child support.

Fact: In the eyes of the judge, child support and child visitation are separate issues. Courts frown on parents even attempting to use one to leverage the other.

Myth: By committing adultery you give up everything.

Fact: Increasingly, courts view divorce as the dissolution of an economic unit, and in many jurisdictions, bad conduct during the marriage – infidelity – is not even considered in the division and distribution of the marital estate.

Book Recommendations:

Spiritual Divorce: Divorce as a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life by Debbie Ford

Any book by Esther Perel


Watch Episode 7 of Grow Your Guru for everything you wanted to know about divorce, but were too afraid to ask. Divorce Lawyer and Family Law expert, Annette J. Benson is my special guest for this episode.

About the Author

Susie Kamen - Host of Grow Your Guru on New Radio MediaSusie Kamen – LMSW, CIRT, SILC
Host of Grow Your Guru on New Radio Media

“I was fortunate to have the type of childhood that provided enough baggage that would require me to pay extra at any airline counter. Although I did not always appreciate my luggage, once I began to unpack it, the “Growth Gifts” inside became the foundation for my lifelong journey to grow, learn, and serve.

For the past 27 years, I’ve been a therapist working with individuals, couples, families, and adolescents. I have expertise in premarital counseling, divorce recovery, anxiety, and depression, and specialize in relationships and communication – including the relationship you have with yourself. I’m passionate about my own growth and dedicated to providing safety and the non-judgmental space necessary for your sacred journey of personal growth.

Unfortunately, we are not taught to care for our mental health individually, or in relationships, without stigma or shame. I remain committed to my mission to teach the value of growing in every area of life, so you may unpack your baggage and grow!”

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